Metal head

You want to know what sets the successful apart from the rest? It's not that they don't have problems — the boss not liking their idea, dealing with inflations etc. What distinguishes the strong willed from the average Joes is their tenacity to be mentally stable and strong through the rough tides, despite them even. These people enter the world prepared to work and succeed on their merits, at every stage of life. But, if there are habits that make them, there also those that break. And from their experience, they have learnt to avoid exactly those that make them mentally, socially and emotionally weak. Here's a list of 10.

THEY NEVER SAY YES MINISTER

You can't please the world if you can't please yourself. And you can't please yourself if you are constantly focussing on pleasing the world at large. It's rare that you'll find a person with a spine trying to please all the time. It's not a habit they indulge in. They rather carry on with their work with dignity and grace..



THEY ARE NOT WARY OF CHANGE

Only one thing in life is constant, and that is 'change'. So, welcome it with a smile, they'll reiterate. An environment of change and even, sometimes, ambiguity can revitalise you and bring out thy best. Apart from accepting change without much effort, the emotionally stable also don't waste time and energy on situations that aren't in their control. But what they can get a hold of is their own sanity.

THEY WON'T FEAR BEING ALONE

They are happy being alone, unlike most who constantly crave company, and are bored if there's no one to talk to, or hang out with. These folks don't fear 'me time'. Mentally strong people enjoy and deeply cherish the time they spend by themselves. They use their alone time in deep contemplation, reflecting about their personal and professional life, to understand how things are going for them and work.

THEY DON'T INDULGE IN SELF-PITY

You'll never catch the mentally strong wallowing in self pity. And the reason they never feel sorry for themselves — no matter how tough they find coping with it — is because they have learnt to take responsibility for their actions and results. They have an instinctive understanding that life is not always fair. In good times and bad, they have a good head on their shoulders.

THEY DON'T SHIRK RESPONSIBILITY

They learn to take onus for their actions, and avoid sharing it with others. Designating their power to others is not a habit that a person with strong leadership quality possesses. Instead, s/he enjoys taking control since they understand that his/her strength is in the way he/she responds to it.

THEY DON'T RESENT OTHERS' SUCCESS

And while they don't disseminate their power so easily, they also don't hold resentment towards those who enjoy equal authority either. They are secure in their space, and therefore, feel genuinely happy for other people's success, while making a note of what led to their achievement. The mentally strong ones are willing to work hard to achieve what their peers have.

THEY DON'T FEEL THE WORLD OWES THEM

They don't feel the world owes them anything. Here's a tip from their lives' checklist.

Mentally strong folks don't measure success with the money they make. Their lives hold more meaning than that. It's the happiness quotient that they try to up, and that can't always be measured monetarily.

THEY AREN'T AFRAID OF TAKING RISKS

They understand that it is essential to pay heed to the mistakes one has made in the past, take full responsibility of their actions and learn from it. But at the same time, they also understand that playing too conscious all the time can be deterrent to one's growth. What they do well is, weigh the pros and cons, and then plunge into taking a risk.



THEY DON'T QUIT EASILY

It's not that mentally strong people don't see failure, it's just that they don't get caught up with it, letting it dictate their attitudes and actions. Yet, you won't catch them moping each time they fail. They view each failure as a lesson to get better at their game. Failure is part of the learning curve. Mentally strong people are willing to fail repeatedly, as long as the learning from failure can bring them closer to their goals.

THEY DON'T IMAGINE INSTANT SUCCESS

Whether it's following a strict workout plan, or launching a new business venture, mentally strong people never expect instant results. Hard work is ingrained in their being. They apply their time and energy to things that truly matter and go one step at a time; celebrating only small achievements along the way. Neither do they dread the arduous long wait.






-Mumbai Mirror